A WIFE'S PRESCRIPTION FOR AN UNCONVERTED HUSBAND
QUESTION? / COMMENT!
I have been a stander for about 9 years maybe a bit longer. My husband has been in an affair for 5 years now. I want to pray for his ungodly soul ties to be broken as if I could I’d love to not just save my husband from his spiritual warfare but even the other woman who herself is broken and sick. I have forgiven them both, and my husband is wanting to get out but it is a difficult thing when you’ve created this ungodly soul tie. How can I pray for him.
I pray the rosary daily, the divine mercy Chaplet daily, go to mass religiously, have a very intimate relationship with God, go to confession regularly, work very hard to live in a state of grace, just don’t know if there are prayers I can pray for his ungodly soul ties since we are one flesh. We were married through the Catholic Church and he was always our faith leader. I will not stop standing, but am definitely getting exhausted! Any help would be appreciated!
ANSWER! / COMMENT!
Here is a husband/wife's prescription for an unconverted husband/wife. Our Lord Jesus Christ told St Faustina 1) “If you say this prayer (the Divine Mercy), with a contrite heart and with faith, on behalf of some sinner I will give that soul the grace of conversion” - https://www.divinemercy.org/elements-of-divine-mercy/3-o-clock-prayer/10.... Say it everyday for your husbandwife preferably at 3pm.
Next, pray the rosary everyday for your husband/wife so that your prayers can ‘merit for him the grace of conversion.’ Our Lady says in promise no.11 (of the Fifteen Promises of the Rosary). "You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the rosary."
If you live in a state of grace you are personally protected from the diabolical, your tears, pain and suffering for your husbandwife are meant to purify you and make you a saint. Your prayers become more efficacious as you become holier (cf. James 5:16) and your role is to pray, do penance and suffer for the conversion of your husband/wife (cf. 1 Cor 7:14). How about adding a weekly holy hour in front of the blessed Sacrament to merit the grace of conversion for your husband/wife.
Say this prayer at your bedside on your knees, that is your altar where “the two have become one.”
1] In the name of Jesus Christ and by the power given to me by God the Father Almighty through natural law & the sacrament of marriage. I beg you Lord to bind any demon afflicting my husband/wife, any demon present to him/her known to my angel & his angel, St Michael or the Blessed Virgin Mary. Dear Lord, bind any demon manipulating images in his memory or imagination. Dear Lord, bind any demon attempting to disorder his appetites. Dear Lord, specifically, bind any demons of rebellion, addiction and disorders of any kind. Dear Lord, bind any demons exploiting any emotional or psychological wounds he/she may have…I pray that you grant my husband/wife the grace to assent to the truths of the Roman Catholic Faith. I pray that my husband/wife receive the grace to hunger and thirst for the Holy Eucharist. I pray that he desire purity of mind, body and soul. I pray that the light of Christ be upon him so that he sees himself as the Heavenly Father see’s him and that I see him as the Heavenly Father see’s him. By the grace granted to me as the heart of the home by God the Father Almighty through the natural law and divine positive law, I beg you Lord to place the crown of thorns, saturated in the precious blood of Jesus Christ upon the head of any demon who dares to affect my husband, any demon present to him, any lying spirits, any spirits of rebellion or addiction, any demons of any kind who try to afflict him. May the good Lord place the crown of thorns upon your head the entire time you try to afflict him.
May God bless my husband in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit – Amen.
Mother Mary Most Holy, please hold (name) in the mantle of your motherly protection and cover (name) with the veil of your holiness.
Virgin Most Powerful pray for him and protect him.
St Joseph terror of demons pray for him and protect him and cover him with the cloak of your fatherly protection - Amen.
2) Commission of the Care of Soul and Body - may be prayed at any time, but especially before sleeping.
For one other person (singular):
Into thy hands, Mary, I commend the body and soul of N. I ask thee to provide for him (her) and to protect him (her). I ask thee to protect him (her) from the evil one. I ask thee enlighten his (her) mind, strengthen
his (her) will, and refrain his (her) appetites by grace. Our Lady and St. Michael, call down from Heaven the legions of angels under your command to protect him (her); I ask of you all the things I ask of his (her)
guardian angel. Guardian angel of N., under thy intellectual and volitional protection I place his (her) body. I ask thee to illumine his (her) mind and refrain his (her) appetites. I ask thee to strengthen his (her) cogitative power, his (her) memory and his (her) imagination. Help him (her) to remember the things he (she) should and not remember the things he (she) should not. Help him (her) to associate the things he (she) should and not to associate the things he (she) should not. Give him (her) good clear images in his (her) imagination. I ask thee to drive away all the demons that might affect him (her) while he (she) sleeps (or throughout the course of the day). (Help him (her) to sleep and, if thou should deem it prudent, direct his (her) dreams. Help him (her) to arise refreshed). Amen.
3] St. Raphael Prayer for Troubled Marriages
O Glorious St. Raphael, Archangel of healing, intercede for our marriage today. Bring our marriage the same heavenly gifts you brought Tobias and Sarah, the celestial graces of healing, deliverance, and marital unity. Infuse into our hearts the peace and confidence that nothing is impossible with God concerning the renewal of our marriage. Rekindle in our marriage new forgiveness, new humility, new grace, new peace, new purity, new trust, and new love.
O St. Raphael, one of the seven who stand before the throne of God, intercede to the Merciful Father for the miracle of peace and reconciliation in our marriage, through the infinite merits of Our Lord, Jesus Christ, and the consoling power of the Holy Spirit.
O blessed Raphael, guide us on the pathway of marital peace and unity. Most loving Archangel of healing, I believe in you, I trust in you, and I thank you. Amen. St. Raphael Prayer for Troubled Marriages - Catholic For Life
Patron saint of desperate situations and impossible causes
…as well as a saint for feuding families, healing, and mothers.
Here is a special prayer for the intercession of Saint Rita:
O Holy Patroness of those in need, St. Rita,
whose pleadings before thy Divine Lord are almost irresistible,
who for thy lavishness in granting favors
hast been called the Advocate of the HOPELESS
and even of the IMPOSSIBLE;
St. Rita, so humble, so pure, so mortified, so patient
and of such compassionate love for the Crucified Jesus
that thou couldst obtain from Him whatsoever thou askest,
on account of which all confidently have recourse to thee,
expecting, if not always relief, at least comfort;
be propitious to our petition,
showing thy power with God on behalf of thy suppliant;
be lavish to us, as thou hast been in so many wonderful cases,
for the greater glory of God, for the spreading of thine own devotion,
and for the consolation of those who trust in thee.
We promise, if our petition is granted,
to glorify thee by making known thy favor,
to bless and sing thy praises forever.
Relying then upon thy merits and power
before the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
we pray thee grant that
(here mention your request).
By the singular merits of thy childhood, obtain for us our request.
By thy perfect union with the Divine Will, obtain for us our request.
By thy heroic sufferings during thy married life, obtain for us our request.
By the consolation thou didst experience at the conversion of thy husband, obtain for us our request.
By the sacrifice of thy children rather than see them grievously offend God, obtain for us our request.
By the severe penances and thrice daily scourgings, obtain for us our request.
By the suffering caused by the wound thou didst receive from the thorn of thy Crucified Savior, obtain for us our request.
By the divine love which consumed thy heart, obtain for us our request.
By that remarkable devotion to the Blessed Sacrament, on which alone thou dost exist for four years, obtain for us our request.
By the happiness with which thou didst part from thy trials to join thy Divine Spouse, obtain for us our request.
By the perfect example you gavest to people of every state of life, obtain for us our request.
Pray for us, O holy St. Rita, that we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.
Let us pray: O God, Who in Thine infinite tenderness hast vouchsafed to regard the prayer of Thy servant, Blessed Rita, and dost grant to her supplication that which is impossible to human foresight, skill and efforts, in reward of her compassionate love and firm reliance on Thy promise, have pity on our adversity and succor us in our calamities, that the unbeliever may know Thou art the recompense of the humble, the defense of the helpless, and the strength of those who trust in Thee, through Jesus Christ, Our Lord.
Amen.
4] Pray for yourself – here is a Wife’s Prayer: O Merciful Lord God, who in the beginning took Eve out of the side of Adam and gave her to him as a helpmate: give me the grace to live worthy of the honorable estate of matrimony to which Thou has called me, that I may love my husband with a pure and chaste love, acknowledging him as my head, and truly reverencing and obeying him in all good things; that thereby I may live with him in all Christian quietness. Keep me from all worldliness and vanity. Help me, O Lord, that I may, under him, prudently and discreetly guide and govern our household. Let no fault of mine aggravate any sins by which he may be especially tempted; enable me to soothe him in perplexity, to cheer him in difficulty, to refresh him in weariness, and to advise him in doubt. Give me understanding so to fulfill my part in the education of our children, that they may partake of joy in this world and of glory in the next. Grant that our perfect union here may be the beginning of the still more perfect and blissful union hereafter in Thy kingdom; and this I pray through Jesus Christ our Lord – Amen.
Here is a great example: Servant of God Elizabeth Leseur (1866-1914) was a good wife with a wealthy husband, she personally renounced wealth and led a holy live. She has been called the Thérèse of Lisieux for married women. She did, in fact, discover her own little way of sanctification through pure and sacrificial love, humility, meekness, redemptive suffering, a vibrant prayer life and, critically, shutting the heck up. In 1889 she married Felix Leseur, a medical doctor from a similarly affluent background, but no longer Catholic (a point she discovered only shortly before their wedding). He not only refused to practice Catholicism, he was outwardly and vehemently hostile toward the faith. Even the atheists were attracted to her grace and holiness), she simultaneously and unassumingly lived a hidden life as a contemplative and mystic. Elisabeth’s death in 1914, from breast cancer that had metastasized, was prolonged and painful, but Felix testified that she bore it with calm and sweetness. She had asked her sister to destroy her spiritual “Diary” after her death, but instead, her sister gave it to Felix, who published it a few years later. He was so moved by the profound faith and love of his wife, that within a year, he returned to Confession and the faith. Several years later, he entered the Order of Preachers. Ordained nine years after her death, Fr. Leseur spent much of his time until his own death in 1950 speaking about her spirituality and promoting her cause for sainthood - https://aleteia.org/2014/10/04/divorce-proof-your-marriage-by-emulating-....
St Catherine of Genoa (married laywoman 1510). She was born to a prominent Genoese family, Catherine was married at fifteen to Guiliano Adorno, he was a man with a gambling problem. For ten years, she sought to distract herself from her troubled marriage through worldly occupations. A great sadness grew in her and she was tempted to despair. One day she went to confess her sins, and as she knelt before the priest, she received a great grace, she writes “a wound in my heart of the immense love of God.” She left at once, and shut herself up at home: “no longer the world, no longer sin,” she professed. From this time on she began to live a life of profound prayer and penance – for many years God was her sole guide. Her attachment to Christ opened her heart to charity, and she began to work at the hospital of Pammatone when she eventually became director. Catherine had a conversion of heart, her husband Guiliano became a Franciscan tertiary. He and Catherine gave themselves to the care of the poor. She shared her mystical insights in the Treatise on Purgatory & Dialogue between the body & soul. During the last fifteen years of her life, Catherine suffered from various serious health problems. She died from an illness that doctors could not explain (Magnificat; March 2022, vol.23, no.13, Saints Who Overcame Temptation, p.134). Get more detail on husbands conversion - https://www.ewtn.com/catholicism/saints/catherine-of-genoa-517
This verse answers your question. Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Let me put flesh to this verse: 'Born in 1381, Rita of Cascia lived in an Italy where vendetta, the endless cycle of revenge, was an everyday problem. She must have seen this firsthand, for she grew up in a family of peacemakers who helped arrange legal resolutions for warring parties. Rita wished to enter religious life, but could not persuade her parents, who betrothed her to a young man named Paolo Mancini. Paolo had a fearsome temper, and Rita suffered much at his hands. Yet with time, her kindness and holiness tempered his roughness, and they had two sons. Then, after almost twenty years of marriage, Paolo was murdered. Rita prayed fervently to be able to forgive the killer. And knowing the further bloodshed that would take place, she enraged her in-laws by refusing to divulge the suspect's name. She strove to cultivate forgiveness in her boy's hearts as well, and was grateful to God when they died from illness without pursuing their intended revenge. She eventually entered an Augustinian convent, where she remained until her death in 1457. Pope John Paul II praised her as a model of forgiveness: "It is to be hoped that the life of everyone will be a life sustained by passionate love for the Lord Jesus; a life capable of responding to suffering and to thorns with forgiveness and the total gift of self, in order to spread everywhere the good odor of Christ.' (Magnificat; St Rita of Cascia; April 2023; Vol. 25, no.1, p.332). We now call her St Rita of Cascia, she died in 1457, God allowed her to experience a terrible marriage and family life in order to make her holy. God allows misfortune to happed to people for salvific purposes (to save your soul).
‘Jesus, Keep Me Near the Cross’ (story): "Vanna, Vanna, My LOVE, speak to Me!" The young man had rushed to the side of his wife, who lay broken and insensible under the weight of the grandstands that had collapsed. Knights were dropping their weapons and tearing off their helmets. Some of the ladies watching the tournament were hurt badly, but no one worse than Giovanna. And she had not wanted to attend. Her husband Jacopo, a friendly but wild and irreverent fellow, had persuaded her. He loved her, but fidelity was another matter. Youth comes only once, after all. "Loosen her robe, let her breath!' Jacopo cried, and when they did so, he saw what nearly stopped his heart with shock and guilt. Vanna was wearing a hair shirt. With her final breath, she told him she loved him, she prayed for him, and she had taken suffering upon herself to pray to God to heal him and forgive his sins. A fine novel by Helen White, A Watch in the Night, tells the story. Suffering did for Jacopo what prosperity and popularity never could. If you go to his tomb in Todi, you can read that he became a fool for Christ, that he swindled the world with a new kind of art, and he stole heaven away. Jacopone da Todi became a Franciscan friar, beloved by the common people, but a severe critic of worldly churchmen, including his kinsman and enemy, Pope Boniface VIII. But he was a poet, too, and to him, as scholars believe, we owe the most moving hymn to the sorrows of Mary ever written, the Stabat Mater.
By Anthony Esolen: Magnificat- March 2023, Vol. 24, No 13, page 208.
God is allowing all of this suffering to make you HOLY.
Bishop Donald J. Hying: “Know that the mystery of suffering in our lives is the sacred ladder by which we will ascend to the beauty of the Kingdom of heaven” [https://simplycatholic.com/how-to-enter-fully-into-the-triduum-this-week/].
“Through our suffering we distribute graces to other people in the body of Christ. This is why, when Our Lady appeared to the children of Fatima she said "Pray, pray a great deal, and make sacrifices for sinners, for many souls go to hell, because they have no one to pray and make sacrifices for them" [The Blessed Virgin Mary at Fatima: August 19, 1917] Our Lady of Fatima's PLEA FOR SACRIFICE (catholic-saints.net).
Another piece of advice, use blessed salt on his food, put holy water in his coffee or tea and cook his food with blessed oil.
How should you behave towards him?
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (RSV) “[12] To the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. [13] If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. [14] For the unbelieving husband is consecrated through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is consecrated through her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy. [15] But if the unbelieving partner desires to separate, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. For God has called us to peace. [16] Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife? [17] Only, let everyone lead the life which the Lord has assigned to him, and in which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.
If your husband is lukewarm and unconverted (cf. Rev 3:15) his soul is in danger. Your called to be a St Monica, you must embrace your cross & prayerfully unite your sufferings to Christ (cf. Colossians 1:24) for him. Pray the holy rosary and the chaplet of the divine mercy every day for his conversion. Fast and do penance for him so that you can merit the grace of conversion for him and he may one day fall in LOVE with JESUS CHRIST and become the St Joseph of your home.
Mathew 17:20 “But this kind is not cast out but by prayer and fasting." Satan's tactic is to divide and conquer your marriage & family! Our Catholic Christian tactic is to "Unite our marriage & family through prayer!
A wife with an unconverted husband should have a monastic prayer life, receive the sacraments as often as possible and offer Masses for his conversion. The holier you are the more powerful your intercessory prayers will be (cf. James 5:16).
Here is the role of a woman from Scripture, read:
1 Peter 3:1-7 (RSV) “[1] Likewise you wives, be submissive to your husbands, so that some, though they do not obey the word, may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,
[2] when they see your reverent and chaste behavior.
[3] Let not yours be the outward adorning with braiding of hair, decoration of gold, and wearing of fine clothing,
[4] but let it be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable jewel of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.
[5] So once the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves and were submissive to their husbands,
[6] as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are now her children if you do right and let nothing terrify you.
[7] Likewise you husbands, live considerately with your wives, bestowing honor on the woman as the weaker sex, since you are joint heirs of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered.
Proverbs 31:10-31 (RSV) “[10] A good wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
[11] The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
[12] She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
[13] She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
[14] She is like the ships of the merchant,
she brings her food from afar.
[15] She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and tasks for her maidens.
[16] She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
[17] She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong.
[18] She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
[19] She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
[20] She opens her hand to the poor,
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
[21] She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
[22] She makes herself coverings;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
[23] Her husband is known in the gates,
when he sits among the elders of the land.
[24] She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers girdles to the merchant.
[25] Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
[26] She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
[27] She looks well to the ways of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
[28] Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
[29] "Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all."
[30] Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
[31] Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
Sirach 26:1-3, 13-16 (RSV) “[1] Happy is the husband of a good wife; the number of his days will be doubled. [2] A loyal wife rejoices her husband, and he will complete his years in peace. [3] A good wife is a great blessing; she will be granted among the blessings of the man who fears the Lord….[13] A wife's charm delights her husband, and her skill puts fat on his bones. [14] A silent wife is a gift of the Lord, and there is nothing so precious as a disciplined soul. [15] A modest wife adds charm to charm, and no balance can weigh the value of a chaste soul. [16] Like the sun rising in the heights of the Lord, so is the beauty of a good wife in her well-ordered home.
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (RSV) “[12] To the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. [13] If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. [14] For the unbelieving husband is consecrated through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is consecrated through her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy. [15] But if the unbelieving partner desires to separate, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. For God has called us to peace. [16] Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife? [17] Only, let every one lead the life which the Lord has assigned to him, and in which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.
*Finally, try this >>> Our Lady’s Green Scapular: A Miraculous Little-Known Sacramental for Healing & Conversion. Put green scapulars in his sock drawer, beneath the mattress, in his pillow case, in his desk drawer (but don’t tell him) https://www.churchpop.com/2021/05/28/our-ladys-green-scapular-a-miraculo...